How to Talk to Children About Giving, Gratitude & the Spirit of Christmas

The festive season is full of excitement, lights, and gifts, but it’s also the perfect opportunity to nurture important values in our tamariki, like giving, gratitude, and kindness.

At Three Trees Learning Centre, we know that children learn best through experiences, stories, and gentle guidance. Here are some practical ways parents and whānau can help little ones understand and embrace the spirit of Christmas.

Model Gratitude in Everyday Moments

Children watch and learn from the adults around them. Simple habits, like saying thank you, noticing the effort of others, and expressing appreciation, teach tamariki that gratitude is more than words: it’s a way of seeing and connecting with the world. Encourage them to notice and comment on small acts of kindness too.

“Wow, Aunty shared her cookies with you. How thoughtful!”

Encourage Thoughtful Giving

Gifts don’t have to be big or expensive. Encourage tamariki to think about what others might enjoy or what would make them happy. Ideas include:

·      Handmade cards or drawings

·      Helping to wrap presents

·      Giving a small, thoughtful gift to a neighbour, friend, or whānau member

This helps children understand that giving is about thoughtfulness and care, not just the exchange of things.

Share Stories and Traditions

Stories are a wonderful way to introduce the values of generosity and kindness. Read Christmas books that focus on helping others, sharing, or showing appreciation. You can also share family or cultural traditions that highlight giving and gratitude, such as volunteering, donating food or toys, or acts of service in the community.

Create Opportunities for Acts of Kindness

Practical experiences often make the biggest impression. Consider simple activities like:

·      Baking cookies for neighbours or local fire stations

·      Packing a small care package for someone in need

·      Drawing a picture or writing a note for a family member or friend

These experiences help children feel the joy of helping others and understand the positive impact of generosity.

Make Reflection Part of the Season

Encourage tamariki to pause and think about what they are thankful for. This could be done around the dinner table, before bed, or during quiet moments of the day. Simple questions like, “What made you happy today?” or “Who did something kind for you?” help children focus on gratitude and appreciate the people and experiences that enrich their lives.

By weaving gratitude, giving, and kindness into everyday experiences, parents can help children discover the deeper meaning of the festive season. At Three Trees, we celebrate the joy of learning through connection, and Christmas is a wonderful time to nurture compassionate, thoughtful tamariki.